No TL;DR, my apologies

Yesterday was my(27m) seventh date with this girl (25). Up until a week ago we were chatting morning and night, with greetings and plans for the next dates and our dates were going great too, we would hug and hold hands publicly like an actual couple. I had already told her that I'm into her on the third date and asked her to "take your time, because I'm not in a hurry"..

Since the start of this week, the conversations dropped to like one or two replies a day, until mid week I gave her the benefit of the doubt that she might be very busy and stressed, but by the end of the week it was apparent she was not interested.

Now the final date, yesterday:
She always wanted to see a soccer match live and we went to see Ireland vs Hungary, (neither of us belong to those two nationalities, and not important). She had bought the tickets for us (the week before, after which the conversations reduced as mentioned above), (not sure if relevant), I had picked up a toblerone(that said "someone special") and some postcards that she was looking to buy to send home (but she told me when we met that she already bought some, not her fault as I didn't check if she still needed them). I always got her something nice because her love language is physical touch and gifts.

We enjoy the match, it was very exciting, and both of us cheering for the same team. Match ends and I'm hungry but there's a huge queue at the stadium, so I decided I'll eat outside. Her phone was dead too, so I suggested let's go to a pub, we can grab something to eat and she can charge her phone too.. but she said she is okay if we don't find a charger as she can charge it on the bus. Now it was also getting late and she had asked me not to bring my car as it won't be safe driving back tired, which I agreed to, but now my bus options were running out and I have a migraine from being hungry. She had had food before coming so she was just concerned about me getting some food. But I had to choose either eating something or getting my last bus back, else the next bus is at 2 hours later at 1:00 am. We walked to the bus stop and I dropped her to hers and walked quickly to mine to catch my bus. Managed to get a protein bar nearby.

Next morning conversation:
Her: Hey, I’ve been thinking about this, and I just want to be honest with you. I’ve really enjoyed the time we've spent together — you're great — but I don’t feel a romantic connection developing. I think it’s best we end things here. I genuinely wish you all the best and hope you find what you’re looking for.

Me: Hey, thanks for being honest, I guess we are not a good match, but it was genuinely great the time that I spent with you
I hope you find what you're looking for too!!

Her: You feel the same too?

Me: I don't think it matters how a single side feels, a relationship is a mutual thing so.. forcing it is not a good thing.

And that's all folks, I did send her the pictures I clicked on my phone.. but irrelevant

Edit: grammar error corrections

Edit: added context, the conversations dropped almost after she bought the tickets, which was a week before the game/date,


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