I want thoughts and insights on this dynamic going on. In 2018, I connected with someone; however, it never progressed nor got physical (in any capacity). I think we both were interested but in different places in our lives. We stopped talking indefinitely.
Cut to 2024, he reached out and I didn’t respond because I was in a relationship. He reached out again in March, but I was still in a relationship so I didn’t respond. My relationship ended at the very beginning of August. I’ve been processing that relationship ending. And something reminded me of this guy who had reached out twice, so I contacted him.
This man was on it. Texting immediately, double texting (we both were), conversation was flowing for a minute. He basically started the conversation saying, “ I’ve thought about you.” But then it naturally started to die (totally normal). I said hey it was nice reconnecting with you. I’m glad you’re good. He said I would love to see you. From this point he was peacocking and repeatedly saying I wish you’d come see me/ hang out. Again, I was neutral but sort of flirted back. [Back in 2018- me and this guy would hang out and just talk for hours and hours. He never tried anything.] However, worried me was like I don’t want guy coming back just to want a situationship/ casual FWB.
He completely stopped talking to me and I didn’t understand why. He clearly wanted to get back in touch with me, he reached out twice within a year. It made me reel a little. I put my foot down and said listen I’m not going to have this kind of pattern in my life- we can go back to being strangers. Then, I sent an spicy photo (it doesn’t show everything, just enough) and said “you fumbled the bag” (we’ve never been intimate). Still not talking. Why come on so strong just to ghost? Did he think I wasn’t interested? Or was he just wanting to get a lick in? Help.