Hi. So Everyone's default assumption: "You're an asshole." But let's back up a few paces… there's all kinds of reasons and they might not necessarily be problems. Maybe there's something about you that intimidates people, or, makes them feel a little insecure around you. Are you very tall? are you unusually intelligent? is your voice loud and booming? do you remind people of Ser Gregor Clegane lol? we tend to not notice things that are really obvious to other people, because we're just used to them and think well if we could get used to them, why wouldn't anyone else?
So maybe we could do an exercise you know? what if we all talked to one another here, or paired up in the comments, and reported back to the other person things that felt *most obvious* to them about the other person? I think we'd all learn something than just complaining.
It's just an idea I'm floating for all of us here, because we all deserve to be friends with someone else.