My boyfriend (28M) and I (27F) have been together for 2 years. Overall, we’re happy, but one thing I can’t wrap my head around is that he keeps calling me “bro.”
It’s part of his everyday speech… he calls his guy friends “bro” too..but I’ve told him it bothers me when he uses it for me. I don’t really get why he’d use the same word for me that he does for his friends, when there are plenty of other terms he could use.
For the men here: do you use “bro” with your girlfriends? If so, why? Is it just a habit?
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Can’t say I’m one of those men fortunately. It’s weird with a dash of cringy.
He’s trying to be friendly with you. Creating a friendly environment so you both get along well and share things without feeling weird.
Must be some new generation shit.
Bro is something we call everyone we really care about no matter the gender. Plus its deeply ingrained in his lexicon.
Not to make it a tad racial but its the same for black guys like me who call any race “my n***a” it just means i fuck with you heavy 😅
Does it come out yeah. But it’s more in a joking manner. People who use the same words constantly like a broken record lack the intelligence to articulate any better. Not sure what to tell you.
I only started calling her bro cause she calling me bro, bro.
For some of us, the term has kind of become synonymous with “family”. Not saying this is the case with your bf, but for me personally, only people I really care about have ascended to the title of “bro”. For me, it’s a term of endearment.
I don’t know, Twin
its bc i’m secretly latent homosexual and i imagine you’re a dude every time i’m with you
yuck i actually grossed myself out (ick)
no its nothing like that–i mean, i don’t do it but if i did it would be v sarcastic jokey mode w her
Honestly I wouldn’t say this unless I was really comfortable with her. Some of my best girl friends call me “girl” every once in awhile and it’s like a badge of honor.
But I also know when it’s used to insult me, and same can go when calling a woman bro so use your discretion
Bro is the new dude. Its universal.
I ask that of my daughters and the answer is “because I love you.” And when I asked why you just say that, the answer is “wasn’t the right vibes”.
TF is that? Anyhow, maybe it’s the same for your bf. I shake my head and move on.
It’s just a level of maturity and that hasn’t been achieved yet.
toots is the proper term he should be using.
I call my wife bro but if she said it annoyed her I’d stop. That being said I highly doubt he’s doing it to piss you off just muscle memory. I call her other pet names too though so not only bro lol we’re 27 if that helps for context
I don’t call anyone “bro,” but I’m from an older generation. I would use “dude” instead.
Why? Because saying someone’s name in situations where you don’t have to specifically indicate that you’re speaking to them just sounds weird. I certainly don’t want someone to constantly say my name. It would irritate me, and i would feel like they are being aggressive towards me.
Some people use it pretty flexibly like “dude” or “man” or “homie” or “dawg.” It’s become gender neutral for some folks, depending on the context. I use dude and man with my gal. I sometimes throw in a [“damn sister, get me my keys!”](https://youtu.be/P4JjMlMUQJ0)
It’s okay to remind him that you don’t like it if you’re bothered by it
I would never call my girlfriend bro, honestly between you and me he’s disrespecting you 🫣
I wouldn’t call my girlfriend, or any woman, bro. I also wouldnt want my girlfriend to call me dude.
Id suggest trying once more. “Look, ive already told you I dont like this. You are choosing to do something you know bothers me.”
I never did it seems weird to me