Curious what everyone’s opinion is on them. I go back and forth on it, but typically refrain from putting one in my profile to avoid being sexualized (on a dating app lol) however, when I see a dude have pics in a swimsuit or on the beach I don’t see it as overly sexual (so long as it’s not their entire profile) and find it attractive, but I’m also not a guy.
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I feel like a bikini pic in our society unfortunately gives off the message that you’re looking more for something sexual. I’m not sure if every guy thinks like that but unfortunately a bikini would lead me to being sexualized
Bikini pics women’s version of the fish picture
As a 56 year old man I don’t think they really suit me.
I’m going to get a tummy tuck and once that happens it’s all bikini all the time. But I date men who will stick their dicks in anything so it doesn’t matter what you’re wearing
If you don’t want to be sexualized, then avoid the bikini pics. Unless you wear a granny swimsuit that nobody would find sexy…
I have one on mine, but it shows me doing an activity at the beach and it’s tasteful. So similar advice as to men with shirtless pics.
I’m going to go against the conventional wisdom here and say that you should include them /if/ you want to.
– Women with even the most puritanical profiles still get sexual comments from men, so there’s no way to reduce that to zero no matter what you do.
– Men who will take you seriously still like sex and still like women’s bodies. They just see you as a person first and foremost and the way they treat you will reflect that.
– Being sexualized, while annoying, will save you time by revealing those men’s intentions and/or attitudes towards you/women. There’s a lot of utility in baiting them into revealing that.
I had one on my profile many years ago (think 15ish years) and I was definitely sexualized by many guys. Looking back on it now in my 30s, I wouldn’t do it again.
Unfortunately i think guys will sexualize you either way, just think about it for yourself and if you feel good about the pics then put them up
As a dude, I think bikini pics are okay if they’re somewhat tasteful and not just an ass picture. We all appreciate a nice booty haha, but when they’re obviously just wanting to show off their ass in a thong, it makes me think they’re just looking for attention and it’s usually a left swipe.
Depends on the kind of picture it is, If intention is more about showing aspects of your life, traveling and other things you do for fun. For example if it’s about a scenic view and you traveling places such as beach/waterfall/lakes and having fun doing activities and being adventurous.
Those shouldn’t bother anyone.
I posted a bikini pic once on Bumble from a trip in Hawaii. I had appropriately sized jean shorts on with a bikini top it was tasteful I swear and they removed my photo because it was against their guidelines. I sent an email saying how it was sexist seeing as men can post shirtless photos and I was in a top!! lol They apologized and reinstated the photo but as a result, I deleted my profile & haven’t gone back. There are certain men(not all) who sexualize everything so I’d say post what you feel comfortable with.
When I was on the apps, I tended to ignore/swipe left on any woman’s profile who looked like she was purposely trying to show cleavage, skimpy photos, etc. I figured she was either a fake profile or somebody I’d not want to date if she’d post photos like that for the world to see. So if it’s a modest bikini photo that subtly shows you’re fit, go for it. But maybe I’m just weird. 🙂
Depends how tasteful they are and what your other pics are. As an example, if the first pic is a bikini pic and the subject is clearly showing off, that implies they’re not looking for anything serious. If the other pictures are party and drinking pics and there is no bio, even more so. On the other hand, if all the pictures are wholesome and there’s a picture mixed in of the subject swimming or at the beach, that makes me think they are looking for something long term and have plenty of self-confidence.
Ultimately it’s up to you, just know that it may influence the types of men that will swipe on you, because some men (like me) actually don’t swipe right on everyone and look at profiles first.
If it was the number one pic I’d most likely swipe left.
Have a bikini picture where you are doing an activity. This way, it’s not just a “Hey, look at me” post; you can also post whatever you want!!