For men who have had vasectomies, did doctors try to talk you out of your decision?
September 5, 2025
Curious for men who are childfree and those with children. I am very interested in hearing your experience.
29 comments
Most have a consultation before even scheduling surgery
During the consultation they ask family health history and ask you why you are getting one
They also ask you about having more kids and are you positive
I tried to get a vasectomy at 18 and was turned away
Nope. But expect them to make COMPLETELY SURE it’s what you want to do. Sterilizing someone is not something to be taken lightly.
2 kids at 26. Had a quick talk with the doc and I think we had to wait a week to verify that we still wanted to do it. After that it was game on.
Not at all.
I was 45 with four kids and two divorces.
Nope, honestly don’t remember if they even asked me why, I was older and have kids.
I assume it goes a lot different for an 18-year-old with no kids.
Numerous, and I was so concerned about the last Doc I saw, I lied and said I already had two kids. He was the 5th Doctor I visited over the span of two years. Been snipped for 5 years now and it’s been amazing. My wife has enjoyed being able to stop taking birth control, as it was causing some inconveniences for her.
r/vasectomy.
Already had 2 kids and a 3rd on the way when I had mine 4 years ago. There was absolutely no attempt to talk me out of it or even question me. It was just like ‘okay, everything looks fine down there, let’s get you scheduled’ lol.
That being said, my vasectomy experience sucked ass (I felt everything and have had recurring pain off and on since) and I’d 100% not do it again if I could go back.
They definitely wanna make sure you’re not gonna sue them for doing it later
Nope. Just asked if I was sure I didn’t want kids.
Nope. Like a shady used car salesman, they went out of their way beforehand to say how absolutely safe it was and easily reversable.
Then afterwards, when I expressed concerns about a massive decrease in function, they acted like I was crazy for feeling that way and suddenly brought up that a reversal wasn’t covered by insurance.
Its like an assembly line. They can’t do enough of them. Then once it’s done, screw you.
Childfree. The doctor asked me a few a questions and laughed when I said a woman who wants kids isn’t the right woman. They didn’t try to talk me out of it. I was 32.
No. But the sort of triple check that you’re done having kids. That’s just due diligence.
Got mine 20 years ago and no the doctor just asked me if I was sure, sign the page, done. On another note: if you’re worried about complications, yes they can happen. Fairly rare, although not as rare as advertised. Typically minor, not so minor in my case but not lasting. That’s about as clear as I can get without being graphic. Look up side effects, be prepared. Otherwise, I still recommend it, as long as you’re sure you’re done having kids.
Mine was done by 3 women.
They all commented on how nice my t-shirt was and that smell was me being cooked
lol.. The Dr initially tried to talk me out of it. He was, ‘Hey, are you sure this is something you want, you have two kids, but you are young enough to have more’. I sort of blankly looked at him. I was 39 with a 6 month old and a 6 year old. Mid sentence of what he was saying, he stopped and goes, ‘ha… sorry, I don’t know why I am trying to talk you out of it.. it’s what we have to do.. you have two kids, I don’t even have any yet.. let’s get this scheduled’.
I’m child-free and my doctor explained everything to me but never tried to talk me out of it, in fact, he told me that the data showed that child-free men were much less likely to regret the procedure. However, other doctors I saw before him weren’t quite like that, one of them wanted me to get a phychological evaluation before going ahead with the vasectomy; great way to send your potential patient elsewhere, for sure.
Nope. He had a boat payment coming up.
It was explained to me that they are not as reversible as people make them out to be so that I should be sure I don’t want more kids. Once I acknowledged that, that was it.
33 with two kids. Doc asked if I was positive, then asked if my wife knew. I told him my wife needed to get off hormonal BC and she hates condoms, so this would make everyone’s life better.
Done two weeks later, no regrets.
Had to say it in front of Dr and their assistant, had to sign effectively three different documents, one of which was in 48 pt font bold making it clear it should be treated as
# PERMANENT AND IRREVERSIBLE
No, I told him my wife and I had 3 kids and had talked about this and had no doubts, and he said that was fine. I was 28, got no issues after I explained that.
Not at all (but I have two children). There was the standard warnings “Consider this permanent. Are you sure?”, but not any active pushback.
But to be fair, I went to a doctor who brands himself “Dr. Snip”. He’s not what I’d call neutral on the topic.
Not at all, most was done online, quick tele health chat. Opp done in under 10 mins
They made me wait 30 days and asked me 30 more times if I was sure.
Doctors make no money not performing a surgery.
No but the doc wanted to talk to both my wife and me.
No, but yes …
Asked if I had children, I said “two” .
Asked if I was still married to the mother, I said “yes” .
Asked if I was sure we didn’t want any more children, I said “yes” .
He said, good reversing this is a lot worse than getting it.
I definitely got the feeling that had my answer be no to any of those he would have recommend me reconsidering the procedure.
Can someone explain why men get a vasectomy? I know it stops you from shooting your loot… but is the main reason so you can have sex without having to every worry about condoms again? Not sure why a man would want to go through all of that.
29 comments
Most have a consultation before even scheduling surgery
During the consultation they ask family health history and ask you why you are getting one
They also ask you about having more kids and are you positive
I tried to get a vasectomy at 18 and was turned away
Nope. But expect them to make COMPLETELY SURE it’s what you want to do. Sterilizing someone is not something to be taken lightly.
2 kids at 26. Had a quick talk with the doc and I think we had to wait a week to verify that we still wanted to do it. After that it was game on.
Not at all.
I was 45 with four kids and two divorces.
Nope, honestly don’t remember if they even asked me why, I was older and have kids.
I assume it goes a lot different for an 18-year-old with no kids.
Numerous, and I was so concerned about the last Doc I saw, I lied and said I already had two kids. He was the 5th Doctor I visited over the span of two years. Been snipped for 5 years now and it’s been amazing. My wife has enjoyed being able to stop taking birth control, as it was causing some inconveniences for her.
r/vasectomy.
Already had 2 kids and a 3rd on the way when I had mine 4 years ago. There was absolutely no attempt to talk me out of it or even question me. It was just like ‘okay, everything looks fine down there, let’s get you scheduled’ lol.
That being said, my vasectomy experience sucked ass (I felt everything and have had recurring pain off and on since) and I’d 100% not do it again if I could go back.
They definitely wanna make sure you’re not gonna sue them for doing it later
Nope. Just asked if I was sure I didn’t want kids.
Nope. Like a shady used car salesman, they went out of their way beforehand to say how absolutely safe it was and easily reversable.
Then afterwards, when I expressed concerns about a massive decrease in function, they acted like I was crazy for feeling that way and suddenly brought up that a reversal wasn’t covered by insurance.
Its like an assembly line. They can’t do enough of them. Then once it’s done, screw you.
Childfree. The doctor asked me a few a questions and laughed when I said a woman who wants kids isn’t the right woman. They didn’t try to talk me out of it. I was 32.
No. But the sort of triple check that you’re done having kids. That’s just due diligence.
Got mine 20 years ago and no the doctor just asked me if I was sure, sign the page, done. On another note: if you’re worried about complications, yes they can happen. Fairly rare, although not as rare as advertised. Typically minor, not so minor in my case but not lasting. That’s about as clear as I can get without being graphic. Look up side effects, be prepared. Otherwise, I still recommend it, as long as you’re sure you’re done having kids.
Mine was done by 3 women.
They all commented on how nice my t-shirt was and that smell was me being cooked
lol.. The Dr initially tried to talk me out of it. He was, ‘Hey, are you sure this is something you want, you have two kids, but you are young enough to have more’. I sort of blankly looked at him. I was 39 with a 6 month old and a 6 year old. Mid sentence of what he was saying, he stopped and goes, ‘ha… sorry, I don’t know why I am trying to talk you out of it.. it’s what we have to do.. you have two kids, I don’t even have any yet.. let’s get this scheduled’.
I’m child-free and my doctor explained everything to me but never tried to talk me out of it, in fact, he told me that the data showed that child-free men were much less likely to regret the procedure. However, other doctors I saw before him weren’t quite like that, one of them wanted me to get a phychological evaluation before going ahead with the vasectomy; great way to send your potential patient elsewhere, for sure.
Nope. He had a boat payment coming up.
It was explained to me that they are not as reversible as people make them out to be so that I should be sure I don’t want more kids. Once I acknowledged that, that was it.
33 with two kids. Doc asked if I was positive, then asked if my wife knew. I told him my wife needed to get off hormonal BC and she hates condoms, so this would make everyone’s life better.
Done two weeks later, no regrets.
Had to say it in front of Dr and their assistant, had to sign effectively three different documents, one of which was in 48 pt font bold making it clear it should be treated as
# PERMANENT AND IRREVERSIBLE
No, I told him my wife and I had 3 kids and had talked about this and had no doubts, and he said that was fine. I was 28, got no issues after I explained that.
Not at all (but I have two children). There was the standard warnings “Consider this permanent. Are you sure?”, but not any active pushback.
But to be fair, I went to a doctor who brands himself “Dr. Snip”. He’s not what I’d call neutral on the topic.
Not at all, most was done online, quick tele health chat. Opp done in under 10 mins
They made me wait 30 days and asked me 30 more times if I was sure.
Doctors make no money not performing a surgery.
No but the doc wanted to talk to both my wife and me.
No, but yes …
Asked if I had children, I said “two” .
Asked if I was still married to the mother, I said “yes” .
Asked if I was sure we didn’t want any more children, I said “yes” .
He said, good reversing this is a lot worse than getting it.
I definitely got the feeling that had my answer be no to any of those he would have recommend me reconsidering the procedure.
Can someone explain why men get a vasectomy? I know it stops you from shooting your loot… but is the main reason so you can have sex without having to every worry about condoms again? Not sure why a man would want to go through all of that.