Hope this is the right sub.
My current gf and I are at 3 months so far, known each other for 6 months total. She was in a very hard place when I came into her life, I helped her through it with patience, support, consistency, understanding and transparency…I showed up in ways that no other man has for her in her life (she's told me this). She has trust issues from her prior relationships because they were bad.
The irony I find myself in…
Sexual intimacy happened for us about a month into being official, I had trouble several times with performance anxiety, and I turned to tadalafil to help. It did, but I did not tell her about this for 1.5 months. She's hurt because she thought we were working through performance anxiety together, not with an aid. On top of that, her trust issues are in full swing.
I knew I had to tell her because it's the right thing to do, but also, she'd rather find things out by me telling her…rather than she find out herself. We had a hard and heavy convo the day after I told her. I completely owed up to my mistake. It's the biggest one I've made.
She said she was unsure about what to do with us. I'm giving her space, lightly checking in etc. Reminding her that I'm still here and I truly want to work through this with her.
With people like her, is all it takes is one mistake like that? Then that's it? I guess I accept that outcome. But to me, doesn't your partner coming clean and being honest about a mistake you made also encompass trust?
TLDR: I took tadalafil (cialis) for 1.5 months w/o my gf knowing who has trust issues. I came clean about this and I'm praying we make it through this.