I will start by saying I have had two really challenging experiences in friendships in the past two weeks. One, a mutual friend who I've come to realize asks alot of our family (kids are also friends) when they get people together and doesn't reciprocate. The other is a couple that dropped us and another couple from a group and now seem to be distancing from us for no reason after 15 years of friendship.
All that to say, I've realized as a 45 year old mom with ADHD, two kids with ADHD ages 8 and 10, I want to make friends that solely does not depend on connecting through them. I can struggle to connect because I may carry on in the conversation before I realize I have or talk about things they are not into or give too much info (how are you does not REALLY MEAN tell me all about it).
What are skills or tips you can suggest for finding new friends as a mid-life mom (working pt from home) and vetting friendships also? I don't want to waste time with people who just want us to do stuff for them.
What I am trying: a new social group for parents of neurodivergent kids (focus on parents), outdoor workout group, joining nature hike groups but haven't gone because they always meet on weekends when we are busy with family.