I met this girl at my work and asked for her phone number. We went on a couple of dates. And the energy was amazing. We got along super well. And texted a lot. We went on two dates. Second one being almost all day. We were all over the place. And at the end of the night, went to the movies. And made out in my car. She told me she had an amazing night. And liked being around me. Well, she goes to school in a different state. And left right after our second date.
We kept talking after she left, and the conversations were going well. She was telling me all the stuff she was doing, like moving in that she was going and keeping me in the loop. We were still texting a lot, and she even started sharing her location. She was even wanting to get matching gifts while she was there.
We kept talking for about 2 weeks. She is also in a sorority, so she’s always doing activities and is hanging out with tons of frat kids. Well, after two weeks. The conversations started getting slower and less engaging. I even left her on delivered for an entire day because I was busy. One day after that, her responses started getting slower and slower. I got to the point where she was taking 8 to 9 hours to respond sometimes.
Couple of days ago was her birthday, and I didn’t know I’m not the best at remembering people’s birthdays. I don’t think that’s a big deal, though. I realized halfway through the day and wished her a happy birthday. We didn’t talk much that day. The next day, she apologized and said she blacked out. We had a small back-and-forth. And then she left my message on delivered for. Almost 2 days.
I’m not the best with texting. I’m much better in person. And I feel like I can’t build the connection I want over text; it will just slowly die out. Especially when we only went on two dates. She comes back in three months. And I felt like we were going to lose interest. By then if we kept texting every day. So I double texted her and said, “ If you don’t want to talk to me, I understand. I’m not holding that against you. I’m not the best with texting, and I don’t know about this long-distance situation. She told me that she agreed. And it’s hard to respond to now that all her friends are back and classes have started. I told her I still want to talk to her. I just feel like the two days we spent together aren’t enough time for anything deeper. I’ll still check up with you and keep in touch. And hopefully, we can see each other when you’re back in town.” She told me. Yea she agrees that’s fine. And that was the end of it.”
Now my question is: is this a smart move to give distance in the situation? I still want to hopefully see her again in person. To try to build more connection. But I didn’t think that was going to happen over text. At the rate we were going at. Also, how long should I wait before I text her again and check up on her? She still follows me on all social media and shares her location, so I feel like the door is still open a bit.