So yesterday this girl from another department at my job randomly came up to me and asked my name. I gave her mine she gave me hers. She said something along the lines of “I won’t pretend we don’t see each other every day”.
After my shift was done I said fuck it and decided to go ask her out to lunch. She had me put in my number, we chopped it up a little and went our separate ways. Spoiler: never got a text.
Guess I either misjudged the situation or perhaps I came off a certain way? Idk, either ways time to move on.
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Don’t be that guy who asks out random girls at work
Never know… you could eventually get one. Were you forward about being interested?
Give it some time, you’ll see her again at work. Greet her nicely, but don’t bring up why she hasn’t hit you up. Don’t be a pushover bc then you’ll scare her or give her the ick.
Just be patient honestly. The worse that happens is you never get a text.
I do agree, dont focus on her though, keep moving along. We all can misread people’s expressions. It happens.
Fact that she didn’t give you hers means it’s a big L. Just hope she doesn’t go to HR and complain and I hope there isn’t a power dynamic or you’re toast.
Yeah move on. Don’t even greet her if you see her at work. That rule is set- if she wants to communicate with you, she has your digits. Thank you, next.
She’s def trying to be cool since she basically was the aggressor in this scenario
She is interested. She might be playing games though or have a dude or already be in a few situationships so if you never hear from her again it’s a W
Too early to text .give it a week when she’s bored definitely she will send it 🙂
“Never got a text” what about next month?
know your worth king, forget about her
How old are you?
The only reason I ask is that you are describing this like a bad thing…
She already made the move, now you’ll chase. Not complicated.
I’d suggest completely avoiding dating girls at your workplace. A lot of drama can come out of it. For example, if things get serious, you can’t really disclose it at the office, and you’ll constantly see other guys hitting on her. That can mess with your focus and performance because you’ll end up overthinking and checking on her all the time. Honestly, workplace dating is a headache been there, and it sucks. It’s way better to look for someone outside of work. Just trying to give some advice.
No thats weird – she was definitely coming onto you- either she needed a confidence boost or she’s trying to play it cool and not text you too soon….
Maybe give it some time? This only happened yesterday. When you see her again at work, act perfectly friendly and normal. If she still doesn’t text you in a week or so, then just move on
Soooo I know this sounds insane but you may have come on too strong. Like she obviously wanted you to notice her. That was the whole message. However that doesn’t mean she wanted your aggressive pursuit. I’m not saying you really were too aggressive but she may have thought you were. Just play it cool. Say hi to her next time you see her to check the vibes. If she is really off put then she will engage minimally or not at all.
Some people are just bad texters. Maybe you did exactly what she wanted. But she’s just had at texting. Don’t stress about it man. You put very little investment into this. You shot your shot. Don’t stress it
We live in a day and age where just making effort isn’t always enough. You have to make the right amount of effort in the right way. It’s a really frustrating game that’s very individual and unique to each person. You need to really understand someone to know how to engage with them. Just play it cool for now. You don’t get anything from feeling bad about it
Sometimes people give their number out just to be polite or in the moment, and it doesn’t mean you did anything wrong. The fact that you actually went for it and asked her out is a win in itself. Most guys wouldn’t have even tried. Keep putting yourself out there.