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Am I insane or? My boyfriend is M/18 (about to be 19) and I’m F/19 about to be 20). The way we grew up is very different. I don’t have many rules at my house, I’m free to do as I please, and even though my lack of rules I’m still a very well rounded person, I’m in college, I go to one of the best universities in my state, and I’m on the deans list. My boyfriend on the other hand has very strict parents, he’s not allowed to stay out past 12AM the latest his mom will let him stay out is 1AM. He’s hardly allowed to sleep over at other people’s places, etc. We’ve only been official for a few days, but we’ve been friends before this. I met his parents about 2-3 days ago and it wasn’t even for over 5 minutes, a very brief visit he just wanted me to stop by and say hi. Literally 2 days after that he calls me telling me his mom found my instagram page. I’m like okay? She basically tells him that she doesn’t approve of my posts because I have videos of me lip syncing with curse words and videos of me in my bikini. Mind you I’m about to be 20 years old. Anyway, she was basically being very invasive asking him to tell me if I could take my posts down. Mind you this lady is not my mother so the fact that she asked and he relayed this information to me is insanity. She also found my spam account which is private and asked him if he could go through my account, which is borderline controlling at this point. I basically tell him that I’m not taking my posts down because her rules stop at her house. You cannot go into the real world and dictate other people’s lives because you’re uncomfortable, that’s not how it works. He basically calls me today and tells me that his parents will not allow him to continue the relationship. The whole situation is wild to me because this woman never had an actual conversation with me or go to know me whatsoever. What’re your thoughts? I also know it’s not his fault, but at some point you have to take control of your own life.