I (F26) and my husband (M33) have been fighting a lot over the past few months. I feel like our connection has become very surface-level with little depth, and whenever I try to communicate this to him, he yells and says I’m nagging.
He’s constantly stressed from work and always complains about how busy he is. When I asked him when things might slow down so we could spend some time together, he said “2–3 weeks.” I then asked about the trip we planned, and his response was, “Is the sky blue?” When I told him I was excited to connect with him during our travels, he just said, “Yeah, I’m excited to travel,” with no mention of us or doing things together.
It feels like nothing is personal to me—he only talks about work and how busy he is. I work from home, and he often judges me for being home all day in pajamas, calling me insecure or needy for attention. Last night he yelled at me for hours, called me names, and I ended up sleeping on the couch. He didn’t check on me once.
Today he apologized, but it felt shallow—he just said sorry because he’s stressed from work, without really acknowledging how I feel. We promised each other today that we wouldn’t sleep on the couch anymore and would try to solve things together, but right now he’s sleeping on the couch again and breaking that promise.
I feel really lost. What can I do?
TL;DR: whats a good approach to this problem, how can i fix this?