Yesterday I was supposed to go on a 3rd date with a guy but couldn’t because I woke up feeling sick.

When I told him why I had to cancel he sent me a $200 virtual gift card for DoorDash and asked if I needed groceries or anything else. I thought it was really sweet.

When I told my guy friend about the sweet thing this guy did for me he said “So he didn’t care that you canceled?” I said “No he was really understanding” my friend then said “He probably didn’t care because he’s dating a bunch of other girls that he does things like that for, so it’s no big deal for him!”

I’m really not understanding how he came to that conclusion but I feel like what he said was mean spirited and intended to make me feel insecure

Edit: Some of the comments are implying that $200 is too large of a gift after only a couple dates so I want to clarify that we live in a very expensive area. $200 here is only like 2 or 3 DoorDash orders lol. It’s not much more than what men here would typically spend on a nice date so my thought was he probably was planning on spending around that amount had we gone on the date anyways so decided to send it as a gift card instead so I can order food and medicine


17 comments

  4. What your friend says doesn’t really make sense but I’d still be wary of a guy who spends 200 dollar on me after 2 dates.

  5. I probably wouldnt take your friend here’s opinion on dating anymore if I were you.

  6. He sent you $200 after only two dates? Your friend is an idiot, but this guy is waving a red flag to me

  7. First, he is probably dating other women and you should be dating other men, too. It’s too early to assume otherwise. Second, that’s a very considerate thing to do, and I’d take it as a sign of continued interest in wanting to get to know you. I hope you get that third date when you’re feeling better! Good luck and feel better!

  9. Says more about your friend than the guy…. I mean DoorDash voucher is a bit much…. But nice to do something

  11. $200 gift card is wild. Dude must be made of money. I can’t relate so I probably can’t help here, but it doesn’t sound like he “didn’t care” it sounds like he was being understanding

  12. I can type out a long psychoanalysis, but the short of it is:

    That’s dumb. He’s dumb. Ignore him.

  13. Your male friend is jealous. Having been that friend before, and having similar female friends, I say this in confidence. Spend it wisely queen

  16. Your friend probably has a crush on you and is being jealous. Also thinking $200 isn’t a lot is wild, but good for you.

  17. I think people are getting lost in the $200 and forget that amount of money is relative.

    Yes its a lot of money – but for take away – its not much.

    Sending enough for 1 door dash, is not enough for someone that’s sick if you want them to get better. Sending 2 is more reaasonable. Sending enough for 3-4 door dashes says – hey take care of yourself first – worry about the rest later.

    With that said – always be cautious – but don’t listen to the weird comments about red flags – if he is a red flag – it won’t be for sending $200.

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