I wanna re-iterate. I’m not asking those who have been single for a few years, or only had one relationship. I mean those who have never, ever, EVER been in a relationship.
How are you okay with being single? I don’t have a great job, very few friends, and hobbies are only fun for a short amount of time. So when you have nothing, and have no chance at love, how do you feel okay?
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>How are you okay with being single?
The answer is simple: I’m not. Same for your second question.
Leaving here because i’m interested in the question
Well I don’t NEED someone (a partner) I want one. I went through a lot in my teenage years and I wasn’t in any position to try and love, care for anyone else let alone myself…
I’m very much career focussed and have been busy with studies for my future degree and dream job and working along side, I keep myself busy with friends and hobbies and enjoy my life as it is for now!. I would love a partner to grow old with but that time will come when I’m ready and in a position to welcome someone else in. 🙂
You can’t. People will gaslight you that you shouldn’t need a partner to be happy, while they haven’t gone without sex for more than two months.
I’m not really okay with it, honestly. It does feel lonely not having someone to connect with that is deep and meaningful. I have friends both online and offline but most of those connections tend to be surface-level.
I have to show up because you’re literally describing me but i just got a better job and I’m kinda focusing on my career.
Still single because i realize commitment is hard for me, i tend to be on avoidant side and I’d feel bad for someone else to see that side of me in relationship.
The funny thing is when i have a better job, i have a lot of time to think about whether i should try looking for a relationship or not. But when i was in a busy stressful job, i didn’t have time to stress about dating at all
For clarification; do you mean “never been on a date” or “never had a relationship”?
I’m the latter and I’m not okay with it, I’ve just accepted it and keep apathetically chugging along. I basically just live in a 7 day loop.
Well for starters family then their is my brain to have do many dopamine to release by watching web series and whenever I get motivated then get back to work not for myself but for her whom I will be with in future or some time.
We Don’t Feel Okay…I just suck it up as soon as possible, cry if you must then get back to fighting again…then maybe, if you get lucky someone will turn up
I’m doing pretty good for myself. I have a job that keeps me busy and side projects that are fun to work on. Plus I have time to work out and travel. I can’t complain. I’d like to enter a relationship, but it’s not a must in my life at the moment. I can always go out with a family member that’s near my age or visit a friend if I feel lonely.
I’m honestly in this Reddit because of that issue. I wouldn’t say I have no chance at love. I think I’m just really bad at trying.
I’m a lesbian in the south. I’m also young. Just starting college so first time in a big dating pool. I think I’ve just never had an interest in dating until recently. I saw a lot of drama with my friends. There were only a few other girls who liked girls at my school. Most importantly I don’t know how to flirt and am way too shy to do so.
I’d love to have a GF. However, I find a lot of comfort in friends and community and focus on that instead of one person.
Ive never gotten past just a first date with anyone, 27M. I agonized more over it a few years ago. These days, it still sucks, but agonizing over it does nothing, trying more does nothing, so I just exist with it.
Every first date I get, it seems that we have good conversations, etc. Some dates I can tell the other person isn’t interested based on just body language so I recognize that and am alright with ending dates early. Most however last a few hours with great conversation, but end with either being ghosted or given the “no spark” message.
It’s pretty depressing, but whatever. I spend my time with friends and hobbies. I swipe through dating apps daily and have more “success” (matches and first dates) since moving to a large city.
To be fair, I swipe very selectively and have some less popular lifestyle choices (pet-free, no drinking, no smoking, atheist). Im not interested in hookups, and if I were to do a short term relstionship I’d still want it to be positive and continue platonically after, so I swipe for compatability and interest in people based on the mix of personality and aesthetic preferences. That said, im not delusionally swiping on “10s”, I generally actually prefer people that aren’t as “conventionally attractive”. I mainly am seeking actual interpersonal compatability.
One issue, however, is that my aesthetic/subculture preference basically boils down to queer aesthetics, and as a cishet guy who eventually wants biological kids, there’s not a lot of women/AFAB enbies interested in that. Plus, there’s also often other incompatibilities anyways (soooo many women that I would otherwise fall head-over-heels for are ENM or smokers, which are hard-no’s for me).
So, one part is that I understand that my preferences are more particular and non-mainstream, and the other is that I understand the kinds of people im attracted to are also not mainstream, and therefore less common to find, so it’ll inevitably take more time to find someone.
I love music, food, and my family. I really like sleeping too. I enjoy some social interaction here and there. It’s not a “relationship” but it has some of the same components. I also remind myself that so many people in relationships constantly complain about them. I can’t understand people who need to be in one or can’t stay single for long.
The hard part is touch and sex. I struggle with those frustrations, yeah.
I’m not okay which is why I hope the girl that I been talking to at work eventually leads to something.
Honestly I’m not okay 🥰😟 one of my bsf has a loving boyfriend and I hang out with them and yes I’m happy for her but I wish I would experience that type of relationship some day.
I feel my void with romance books and make myself feel more alone 🤣 With everyday I feel like I’m going insane… but I can say that I’m not the best at talking to new people and also don’t have a lot of friends so I’m a bit okay with not troubling a person with my overthinking issues! Also if I can’t be blessed with a boyfriend I feel blessed with the best friends I got!
I have a small circle of friends but really close friends. I go out with them and have fun. Being single has its perks. You can flirt with whoever you want and do whatever you want with no one else to think about but yourself.
I realize this as I’m starting to talk to someone seriously. I have never been in a relationship so this is the first time I’m doing that… it’s weird.
I’m miserable. But that’s due to personal issues and things that I need to fix. I’m a 30 year old virgin, never kissed a girl and am heavier than I want to be but am slowly working my weight down. My major issue is self esteem and confidence and social anxiety when speaking to new people. There’s also the fact that I have really no drive to go out, I’m happy with staying home and doing stuff there.