Hi everyone I need advice on what to do. I’m sorry it’s a longer story but please offer any advice on how to move forward.
My wife basically tells her best friend group chat that my you know what is “not big”.
Back story: Our sex life is really active and she does finish 90% of the time we are intimate so I figured I must be doing something right because I know I don’t have too much to offer down there. I try to make up for it in other ways which she enjoys and she does really seem to be into it all and has shown she wants to have sex with me. Now to the problem:
I was looking for a picture of my wife and I on our first date 3 years ago. Long story short, I came across messages between her and her best friends talking about the first time we had sex. I saw a message saying that she only enjoyed being on top and that she really didn’t feel a lot in missionary. Her friend then responds with “well what’s the size” and she says “Not big…”. Again I’m not delusional, I know I don’t have a large size down there or anything like that. I’m not going to lie though seeing my wife say that was rough. This got me to thinking about whether or not she has been faking it in bed for the past 3 years. She always asks to be in either doggy or cowgirl and when we do missionary she does ask me to use my finger also which I guess now makes sense why.
My dilemma is she likes to say “you’re dk is so good” and the occasional says “fuck it’s big” which I never really liked because again I know I’m not and now reading this I’m like she’s clearly not being truthful. Now when I hear her say anything about my dk, I kinda get down and stop enjoying it because I now know what she really thinks.
I’m sorry I know it’s a lot but I just don’t know what to do. Do I confront her? If I do how do I bring up the fact that I saw those messages? Do I try to bring it up and hope she says something? Please any real advice would help because it’s eating away at me. Thank you all in advance.