So to elaborate more, I work at a well known retail store and I get a 40% off employee discount, I’m currently on a family vacation and my boyfriend texted me saying that his sister wanted to buy something using my discount, (I’ve let him and his family use it) the plan was I was gonna order it online and have it shipped to their house since I won’t be back until next week and the items come in about 2-3 days, was just quicker that way.
After the items she wanted were sent and it came time to pay , (all communication was through my boyfriend I never texted her directly) I let my boyfriend know the total ( was about $200) and asked if he was sending me the money or his sister was, to which he said she’ll just pay me cash when I get back, I didn’t like this idea because that’s a extra $200 I could use now on vacation, I asked if she could just get it sent through any money app and he didn’t really see the big deal on why I couldn’t wait. I explained it to him but he wasn’t understanding the issue and he just kept saying I would get paid back, I’m sure she will pay me, but that’s how I am with everyone, I don’t pay for anything until I get the money first.
I just told him I’ll place the order once I get back after I receive the cash, and that’s when things escalated because he was calling me stubborn and saying it’s gonna look bad explaining to his sister why I don’t wanna order it, I know it’s a dumb argument but the way he reacted and him not understanding where I’m coming from was kind of a turn off, we’ve been together for 2 years and this was the first time I saw an immature argumentative side to him, plus the reason for us arguing was unnecessary, but I’m more open on communicating with what I’m okay and not okay with it and I really don’t like paying for things for anyone until I have the money in my bank account. Just something we see differently I guess.
All of those went down yesterday and he hasn’t texted me back since, probably still upset with me, but I want someone who can communicate and work things out so it’s kind of bothering me how he is more of the silent and ignoring me type, I like to talk things out and find a solution, just wanted to get opinions and see if maybe I’m just overreacting and really was being stubborn , and if that’s the case I’m more than open to reaching out and apologizing to him.