I mean statistically speaking there are more men who don't want kids than women (edit: okay, my error, likely more an equal amount of men to women, nowadays), but I seem to never run into said men anywhere. If I do, they are typically polyamorous, and I am not. I'm curious, where are you guys going in looking for women to date? Are you online dating? Are you mostly offline and out in the wild? Going to certain social or activity groups? Is there a certain dating site you're finding child free people on? I'm just wondering because it's been like trying to find a unicorn even though it shouldn't be.
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We’re here, we’re just hiding behind all the breeders who tend to get the first likes on Tinder.
Struggling with this too! I always thought it would be the other way around but as a woman in her 30s trying to date, I’ve found that by far the majority of men seem to want kids
Coming from a guy that you speak of. Idk. I guess I just quit looking and just started doing my own thing. I mostly work, enjoy hobbies, and hanging with friends. Kinda boring, I know 😆
Really, there are more men who don’t want kids? That doesn’t make sense to me.
Im 35 and never wanted kids, I think I managed to convince myself that it would be near impossible to find a woman who didn’t want kids so I just didn’t bother trying. Found out last year that while the pool is definitely smaller, there’s hope! I don’t like the apps very much, so found some single events in my city and have been going there. Second date with a lovely lady tonight ☺️
It’s similar to finding a woman IRL that doesn’t have kids or isn’t married / living with someone. Very rare sadly
Huh, 😒. We don’t want kids and ain’t getting no matches
Yeah. Where are you guys?!
I haven’t found any. Even guys who seemed like they were childfree still brought up kids in the future.
I don’t want kids but I’m also already partnered up.
Just speaking purely from a statistical angle, it could be explained by the fact that the dating pool is not a random and representative sample of all men. The people likely to be active and visible in the dating pool are probably those who are highly motivated to find someone to have kids with. In contrast people who don’t want kids might be more casual about it or busy prioritizing other things in their life (e.g. careers or travel) other than a serious romantic relationship.
Too much of an effort
Im staying in my apartment because the out is expensive. + I work nights
I am a person who likes to stay home. Apparently, this makes it hard to find a woman who likes to stay home.
I’m at home or at work.
Statistically this might be true but I know very little men that don’t want kinds. And I think that’s quite surprising considering I live in Europe (and in a “big city” where people are even less likely to have/want children than those in the rural areas) where birth rates are at an all time low.
42, never married, no kids, been a dozen years since i invited someone to join me for dinner.
No dating sites, no bars, i hike,rock climb, fish, walk, ride my bike, always by myself
If im not doing these things il be working or chilling at home reading, doing my chores , visiting family or working some more, likely a combination of these.
Friends all married years ago, others moved abroad, some vanished and others passed away.
I’ve sort of given up on the apps. It’s always the same girls and I live in a city. I think apps like Tinder deliberately hide most guys profiles unless you pay.
I’m a woman in the same boat just turned 34. And I’m open to open dating older men but even men in their 40s seem to want kids. I had one like my profile who was 49 years old. His profile stated he was looking to get married and have kids “one day down the line.” I guess he’s expecting to have kids at some point in his 50s. Kinda delusional to me 🙄
Right here just waiting on someone to call on me. 33yo no kids. Hey I’m an open book ask away!
A famous French sexologist said that “nowadays people engage into serious monogamous relationships/mariage because they want to build a family, once the goal of building a family is done they split…”.
Polygamy or polyamory or whatever is not good for the nuclear family but if you remove it from the picture then there is nothing holding people back from having those kind of relationships except their core values
From the comments it’s seems to be just as rare both ways. Dating has felt very turbulent lately at least from my experience so I still go out and do stuff but don’t go out of my way to meet new people.
Some hobbies and things that get me out are fishing, camping, hiking, photography, kayaking, fairs in the area, going out to the bar once or twice a month.
Personally – Big City. Child free and fun and goal oriented city life for me
As a childfree girl as well, I’m so scared I’ll never find my person because most men I’ve met that wanted a serious relationship also wanted kids 🙁 even those in their late 30s or early 40s, and some even had the audacity to tell me I’m still young and I’ll change my mind eventually lol
I am here just deleted my apps because I never got any matches on dating apps or rarely got any attention from women.
Also, my height didn’t work for me.
If it means I will never find a partner, fine. Keeping pet rats filled the love hole in my soul.
I was lucky to survive my childhood. I have nothing but miserable memories of being small, abused, hungry cold, hurting, broken bones, bruised and bleeding.
The idea of bringing another life into the world fills me with indescribable horror. It’s never gonna happen now I had a vasectomy.
There are lots of kids in our family so I’m far happier being the cool motorbiker uncle with loads of money that always brings gifts.