My wife (36F) and I (31M) have a fantastic life together. Five years of marriage, three kids, and we're deeply in love.
Recently, a specific detail about her past came up in conversation. She mentioned that she's only ever had an orgasm from penetrative sex with one ex. She has never come from penatrative sex alone with me.
Our sexual intimacy is great otherwise. She comes from other forms of stimulation, which we always do, and we have a strong connection. But this one detail has really thrown me.
Since hearing it, I've been consumed by feelings of inadequacy and jealousy. I don’t blame my wife at all—she was just sharing an honest part of her history. Now, though, every time we're intimate, I feel like I’m failing a test, constantly comparing myself to someone who was in her life a decade ago. It's a mental block I can't seem to shake.
Any advice on how to get past these feelings would be a huge help. Feeling a bit broken.
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