I’m dating a 30F who told me she has never had an orgasm in her life.
I’ve tried different things, including tantra massage, but so far nothing has worked. The closest I’ve gotten was making her very wet and turned on, but still nowhere near an orgasm.
We have a trip planned next Thursday and I’d love to help her finally experience it. I know it might be mental, anxiety, or psychological, but I want to at least try my best.
I was thinking of bringing some toys (vibrators, dildos, maybe handcuffs) and experimenting a bit with kink. She mentioned that with her ex she used to do a lot of BDSM but always as the dominant. With me she likes being the sub. I’m not into being submissive, so that dynamic works, but I’m new to BDSM and not sure where to start.
We’ll have plenty of alone time on the trip, and I want to give this my best shot. Any advice on how to approach this, or tips for helping someone who’s never had an orgasm, would be really appreciated.