I (M21) am anxious with about everything, it’s not sex specific but I need advice. I’m a virgin and while most people are in relationships and having sex in relationships im to worried about everything. All my peers aren’t peer pressuring me but they are telling me I’m overreacting and missing out on a lot and it genuinely sucks that I’m anxious.
I’m scared that if I’m having sex in any situation that condoms will break (im allergic to latex so Ill have to use non latex). That’s the worry, but I’ve literally had opportunities to on dates with girls that are really cool and and said no.
I know that sex is also a big part of relationships and although I want kids one day, i dont right now so I don’t go for relationships either because I don’t want a girl to have to deal with this and tbh ive almost been set up with great women a couple of times (like literally they’re nice and awesome women) by my peers and I’ve said no because I know sex will come up.
My peers have told me that most women our age are on bc or have iud (i know it’s not they’re responsibility) and me adding a condom wild make it almost impossible and it’s hard to break. They’ve even said they never use condoms since they’re all in monogamous relationships
How do I get over this? I have no insurance so no therapy and im not getting a vasectomy