If you hang out casually with a guy (without sex) can it turn into a relationship or is it already doomed from the start?
Like if you’re just hanging out at his house without him putting a lot of effort into formally dating, or without having deeper conversations, texting or calling all the time.
That seems to be the direction I’m headed with a guy:
The first date he showed up late, we went out to a couple of bars, there was a show and we played games. Had great chemistry. We both got tipsy and he asked me to make out. Then asked me to go to his place. I told him I don’t have sex early on and he said we didn’t have to. I asked him what he was looking for and he said something “steady”. He showed me around his place and to meet his animals and we started talking, then making out. He kept trying to escalate to sex, but not in a way that was uncomfortable for me. Honestly I feel like he was testing me to see if I would. He didn’t seem like he wanted me to leave, but eventually I did.
Our second date (which he didn’t call a date when we planned it) and was also very informally planned, we just hung out at his place. Honestly I suggested it since I wasn’t feeling too great and he kept pushing back the time. He made dinner, we watched a show that he thought I would enjoy (which I did), started heavily making out, but I set the boundary of no sex
again. Then he fell asleep and when I was about to leave, pulled me in to cuddle all night. It was honestly really sweet. Kissed me goodbye in the morning and let me know we would hang out again.
TLDR: Just interested to hear if something more casual at the start has ever led to anything more meaningful i.e. a relationship for anyone? Or is he is he just hoping that I will eventually give in to sex, since he’s basically giving me fwb energy in terms of intentionality.