ok so just a super short backstory — strict culture, strict parents, only learnt from internet.
okay so i’m still a virgin (20y.o.) and so is my bf, and we both are ldr so nothing has happened. but like we both are curious obviously to try doing the deed, however i do have a slight issue with pain (it spreads and stays for a long time) and both of us have no experience/info.
i mainly have some questions for the act of penetration. i’ve heard that girls have a gspot inside the v, where its only a few inches/cm depending on each person. it should be a rough little area on a cranny inside. i’ve found it before, but i’ve never felt anything but a little pressure when i pressed on it. is that normal ? is that how its meant to be? and the hymen, is it meant to rip ? how painful would it be? what is good foreplay, and how to maybe ensure the deed to be as painless as possible?
my main concern is that i’ve never actually done “anything” other than trying to finger (feels like nothing) and tried a vibrator (could not get it in, it’s like 1.5x the size of my thumb), so i’m really scared that his size is gonna hurt or smth.
i’ve read that most of the time people dont feel it on the inside, so now i’m quite confused. what should i expect during intercourse ? are there steps to take ? is there a way to ensure i dont bleed because i fear pain ?