I went on a coffee date today with a guy and he was nice, but I found myself carrying 99% of the conversation. Of course I left room for him to talk and be reciprocal in the conversation, but after I’d ask him a question or ask about certain things in his life (hobbies, where he was from, his experience at our university since we wen to the same one), he give an incredibly brief answer and would just stare at me and we’d sit in silence for a bit. He would occasionally ask a question or start a topic, but for every 10 questions I asked, he would ask me 1 (if that). Now that I’m looking back on it, I even paid for everything and he didn’t say thank you 😂
I’m all for silence and feel no obligation to fill it, but when you’re on a date where you’re not doing an activity or eating, it can feel a little awkward when they aren’t really engaging in conversation. Before we left, we discussed possible plans to see a movie. And he texted me after and said he had great time talking.
My question is, does this mean he’s not that interested? Or maybe I give off a friend vibe? I thought maybe I was being awkward or something and that’s why he wasn’t really speaking, but carrying a conversation for 3 hours was a little exhausting.
Am I reading to far into this? I have a tendency to overthink, so I’d appreciate a guy’s perspective. Thanks