Hi.
I’ve (30f) been dating this guy (30m) for almost 2 months. I really like him. He’s different than anyone I’ve ever met. But, there are things I’m adjusting to and I’m wondering if anyone is able to share any insight as someone, who maybe, has similar qualities to him. He has ADHD and is introverted. He’s pretty reserved and one on one, we can talk about anything all day. I really like spending time with him. We’ve been consistent with our dates. However, his ADHD/introversion definitely triggers my anxiety attachment that I’m slowly trying to parse out. Yesterday, he accepted an invite to my friends Bbq which to me was a big deal. He was great. My friends liked him. He doesn’t like PDA so I wasn’t all over him but would check in every so often. Then, suddenly, he decided he wanted to leave. Although he said I didn’t have to, I wanted to walk him before he left. I shared my expectation of us spending the night together and asked if he still wanted to hang out later. He said he didn’t and that he was leaving because his social battery is dead. That upset me even though I understand and once I got home, I ended up passing out anyway. I just can’t shake that this means he didn’t have fun, or maybe he doesn’t like how I am with my friends, or maybe he’s sick of me. This sounds so juvenile but dating triggers me a lot. I just want to be compassionate towards him being an introvert and his ability to handle stimulus.
Any advice, words, insight is appreciated. Thanks.