So tonight my husband went out, with my encouragement, because the last week has been super stressful. I had a bad seizure and broke my nose. He had to stay with his mom while my FIL had a surgery due to her Alzheimer’s and didn’t get much rest. Then when my FIL returned home he fell a few days later, requiring paramedics and a trip to the ER, again while someone was with my MIL. He’s been juggling all this & I know it’s a lot. Tonight he got drunk, which he’s done only about 3 times in the in past 12 years. But the trauma dump he unleashed was something else! A lot things I had no idea he was feeling or holding onto. I want to be supportive and help him navigate these issues but right now I don’t feel like I can take this on with my health issues. I feel guilty telling him him that I can’t help, it sounds selfish. The obvious answer is for him to get an appointment with his therapist, but it’s hard to find the time to do that.
TLDR: Husband had a meltdown, but I really don’t feel like I want to help on this one because I want to focus on me and my health.
EDIT: It’s morning now, and he doesn’t remember anything. Crisis averted.