I get it, if I caked my face in makeup and downloaded tinder it would be much easier for me to find someone, but it would come at the cost of not being my authentic self at all. I was on dating apps for a couple months and every single conversation I had on there was fake. If people flirted, I flirted back, but I didn't actually feel those things or care at all. How do people develop any level of attraction with just a few pics and a bio? I also have absolutely no interest in wearing makeup because I'm not super into the artsy side of it and think my face looks just fine without it. I have literally never looked in the mirror and felt like I needed anything more, I'm very confident in myself.
It's just my family getting on me about dating apps and makeup, saying I'm stubborn for not doing those things if I want to date, but I've seen so many people do just fine without both of those things. It's making me feel so horrible cuz I haven't had anyone be attracted to me before and now I'm being told it's my fault cuz I'm not doing these very specific things. However, I am trying other things like elevating my fashion, doing my hair nicer, and trying to find more events to go out to. I'm genuinely trying so hard but I'm basically being told it's because I'm ugly and unworthy of love that doesn't come from a stupid phone app. They don't understand what it's like to be pressured into these things only because you don't get that kind of attention. If I did, nobody would suggest it. I WISH I never had to download an app to get romantic validation, but I did and it didn't validate me at all. They think dating apps sound soooooooo fun but they don't know what it's like for that to be the ONLY way anyone even notices you.
I just want to be like all of my friends who didn't even have to think about it, they just showed up at the right places and the right times and being their amazing selves just attracted people to them. I know I'm amazing too because I have so many beautiful inside and out people in my circle, so why can't I have that light when I walk in a room too?