I dated a man briefly for 2 months. In that time we met each other’s families and started talking about marriage/future/children.
We had a bad week and I called it off. I got stressed out and doubted if he loved me. But then a few days later I realized that I still loved him and asked him if we could try again. We tried for two weeks but he lost trust in me and mean things were said from each side. He ended things. I was blocked. I sent him emails for 6 months after but then stopped.
I called him 8 months later on another number and apologized and he forgave me but told me to please leave him alone which I respected. After that I dated 2 other guys and he dated another girl.
2 years later he contacted me asking to be friends. I was in a relationship so said no. I realized I still had feelings for him and didn’t want to sabotage my current relationship. Sadly, my ex treated me poorly so I ended things with him.
I contacted the 2 years ago ex and we started hanging out and would text everyday. He called me when he was stressed. I would help him with some issues he was going through. Things fell apart though because I disclosed that I still liked him but didn’t want anything. He told me he still liked me too and respected my decision. After that, hanging was hard and we took a break.
After a few months I was depressed and he would call me every other night to console me. We were becoming codependent so we decided to cut contact. I did message him a month later but he didn’t respond so I stopped.
Then a few months later I was at a book store and saw a book he wanted to read with me back when were dating. I bought it out of impulse. I also saw him on a dating app and after that he was on my mind. I messaged him and he responded. We spoke on the phone for like an hour as friends – no flirting.
Then after a week, I accidentally started flirted with him over text. He started calling me a tease. And now things are out of hand. I told him I like that our interaction is only texting and phone calls because it’s easy to write it off as something that never happened. He said something back which ended with a kiss emoji. I’m too scared to open the message. I don’t know how to handle this situation.
I do still have feelings for him but I know he will never work on the issues we had two years ago. He made that clear to me. He is also still in love with his ex and i don’t want to be part of that. I want to be friends again and stop the flirting. But a tiny part of me wants him to come back. I just don’t think it’ll work out because he won’t try and I’m tired. I want him to want it too.
I’m 27 and he’s 29. I don’t have a lot of dating experience compared to him. I’m also from another country but we have a shared mother tongue. I have a feeling that he wants to hookup or is messaging me drunk.