I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 3 months now. Everything has been going great, we’ve clicked since day one. We feel very safe around each other and we both put a lot of effort in the relationship. He’s perfect. We listen to each other, we admit mistakes we make and we’re allowed to be our true selves around each other. He’s 3 years younger than me, so I’m financially more stable. He doesn’t have a driver’s license and doesn’t have an education yet. Meanwhile I have my life together. I’m a nurse, have my driver’s license, my own car and my own apartment. He’s at my place most of the time, and I’m not asking him any money for the rent. It seems unfair to me, as I’m the one who’s financially more stable, and it’s my apartment. Now, this is not something I really care about. Because it’s not from a place of laziness; it’s because he didn’t have the same privileges as me. He’s very smart and a hard worker, his circumstances just sucked more than mine. My parents have always provided for me everything financially, he never had that. Also, before this I’ve been with someone who had everything together, and had a lot of money. And those were very miserable years of my life. So to me, it’s not something that’s important for a relationship.
However, people have been telling me that I deserve better. And those comments hurt. It’s upsetting when people judge someone you love based on something so insignificant. Just now I’ve told a coworker about my boyfriend and she just told me “You deserve better. You’re pretty, you have a nice body, you’re a nurse. What are you doing with him?” I’m honestly so flabbergasted. When I was miserable with my ex-boyfriend who had it together on the outside, no one batted an eye. But now that I’m finally happy people are suddenly meddling with my relationship.
Anyway, am I in the wrong here or what? Because I don’t think that his circumstances are that significant for a relationship. Not when a person is trying their best. Or is this something I should look out for? I just want to be sure, as I’m a person who gets pretty blind when I’m in love.
EDIT: He’s not unemployed. He works, has his own place and is able to support himself financially. He pays for a lot of stuff: groceries, dates, stuff we need in the apartment. I am not mothering him.
TLDR: I’m financially more stable than my boyfriend who’s younger and people tell me I deserve better. This isn’t something I should care about, right?