My (29F) husband (35) has always been up front and honest with me. We have an open phone policy and know each other’s passwords. He’s told me many times I can go through his phone anytime I want. There’s been a few times he’s been next to me and gotten on Snapchat or TikTok. I’ve glanced over and seen his discovery page on snap, and noticed there was a decent amount of suggestive content from random women. He’s made comments about no matter how much he tried to delete or block the content, it’s still there, or stuff like it. He’s promised me up and down he doesn’t look at anything like that and only goes on the page to look at his friends stories. There have been other times where he’s been scrolling on his fyp on TikTok and sometimes it’s clear and just the stuff he looks at- sports/economics/home remodeling, etc. but there have been a few times where it seems like there’s random odd ones thrown in (4-5 times within like 20-25 videos?) that are kind of like girls trying to get attention and gym girl type things. I asked him about that bc that’s usually never on his FYP. He said he understands algorithm and bc of that is always careful to swipe super fast past these so he doesn’t see more of them. He said it’s just randomly sprinkled in and that he doesn’t ever watch stuff like that.
He’s never given me a reason to not believe him. But I feel like it’s weird and maybe doesn’t really add up with what I’ve read about algorithm? Wondering if anyone can enlighten me about this.
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My feed always gets random women. My wife and I have the same open phone policy. Truth is if I look at a car page or a beach page or watch a YouTube channel on ED or pleasing my partner the algorithm will pick up on what I’m looking at and what others look at then send me thirst trap shorts or something that I may not see as pornish but my wife may. He is also a dude and doesn’t mean he finds you unattractive or wants something different but he may notice. Even my wife pauses a moment and say “damn” What he does with it will not necessarily define his character or his devotion it just makes him human. Now there is caveats so be aware but don’t go too far down the rabbit hole. Also Snapchat scares me. My teenage daughter was very nearly trafficked on Snapchat.
Not sure about snap or tiktok but I know on facebook I get shown things just because 1 or 2 of my friends have liked. It gets suggested to me, even though I’ve never ‘liked’ it or shown an interest in it.