I know this sounds provocative but really, I'm desperate. My f(26) boyfriend (M27) of seven months broke up with me. He is a genuinely kind and nice and curious and smart person. We were long distance. He had visited me for two months and then we started talking about me moving to where he loves. With the thought of me coming he felt more and more pressure for the relationship to go all the way. He always made a point of saying that the pressure didn't come from me and I was being amazing about it and amazing at holding his emotions between us and making space for unresolved and unfinished things. Just before we got together we celebrated his birthday together. He said it was the best birthday he had ever had. When he cried for the first time and I held him he said he'd never been held like that. And when we talked about being together and I said what that would mean for me and that I want to be there for him and support him he got emotional and said that no one had ever said that to him. How does one go from that to when I say: there's space in this relationship to figure these feelings of uncertainty and pressure out together, saying: I don't want that?