I(29f) recently talked to a singer at my church. I just moved church so I don't know a lot of people there yet. I found out she just turned 19, is in college, working part time, while also planning her wedding. I congratulated her and asked her how long had they been dating to decide to get married. I was fully prepared to hear cute highschool sweetheart story, only to find out her fiance is a 35 y.o man, was her boss, and they'd been dating for less than a year ðŸ˜.
She said she started interning as admin in his office last year for 3 months before college started. At the end of her contract, this man (the owner), who never once talked to her approached her and said he appreciated her help so far. He offered her a permanent part-time position (go figure) without written contract, and she accepted. He started texting her and courting her since then, until one day he sent her 2 pages pdf file detailing how much he likes her and asked her to be his gf. She was all dreamy and said in those 2 pages, he basically said "you are the answer to my prayers. You have all the quality and characters of a Godly wife that I've been praying to God for years". She always wants to marry young so she took it as a sign from God 💀 but asked him to wait 4yrs to get married cause she wants to finish college first.
Anyway he agreed back then, but this year he suddenly proposed and told her they should get married next year because he can't wait to build a life with her. She said she thought it might've been too soon, but her mom agreed, and she'd asked all her former Sunday School teachers at church, who knew she'd always wanted to marry young, and THEY ALL encouraged the marriage and are happy for her. She now studies full time as well as working admin and secretary job with minimum wage, and also planning her wedding. Yo am I trippin? Like nobody else found this dynamic of a fully grown men with barely legal girl extremely concerning? I felt so jaded talking to her, like… are you not seeing all the red flags there? And to learn that her major is Psychology 😠the irony doesn't escape me.