Hi all, so while on holiday at a vacation home my family owns (a 3hour flight from my normal home), I (34M) met a women (35F) and we have been going on dates over the last two weeks.
On the second date she told me she liked to take dating slow which was fine by me. To clarify I am on the spectrum and among other things im a bit touch averse when I don’t know people well and have difficulty reading body language hence why also nothing happened on the first date and taking things slow is also good for me.
Yesterday we had our fifth date where we first went to a restaurant and after that to a music bar where a live band was playing. During the past dates we had a lot of talks and connected (at least from my side). Because of this I was more comfortable touching her during this date and she was also touching me in return (nothing inappropriate just arms, legs shoulders etc). When it was time, I walked her home to her door and said that I had a really nice time and would really like to kiss her. Sadly she denied this by saying “not right now”. After that we said goodbye, I walked home and texted her when I was home because she asked that every time.
So now the next day I’m having difficulty understanding what this all means,
* Where do I go from here?
* Was I to fast for her?
* Was it a clear rejection that there is no click from her side or was it the timing?
* Do I ignore the whole kiss situation and just ask her for another date?
The rejection doesn’t bother me as much, the uncertainty is what is killing me! When we started dating I did see the distance as a hurdle but not something that can’t be overcome. Im at the destination for 4 more days including this one and feel like we need to clear up our relationship otherwise we wouldn’t have one.
Please share your thoughts and advice. Thank you