In my (30F) last relationship, my ex dumped me after 3 years of dating because he admitted he settled for me because he really wanted to be in a relationship at that time.
While it sucked, I was a bit relieved to be out of the relationship. I noticed the amount of effort he was putting into the relationship was decreasing over time and that I was unhappy and just trying to salvage it because of what we initially had.
After a few years of healing and working on myself, I’ve jumped back into the dating apps. I had something promising with the guy I’ve been seeing (31M) for the past few months. We were texting and seeing each other regularly, have met each other’s friends, had similar values, and I felt happy emotionally and physically.
I thought we were heading into being exclusive, but he just broke it off with me after going on one date with someone he felt more compatible with. Similar to my ex, this guy also admitted I wasn’t fully what he was looking for, but was worried he wouldn’t be able to find someone “better” than me.
I feel like both these experiences have taught me that I am pretty bad at discerning between men who just want to be in a relationship with anyone vs men who want to be in a relationship with me.
I know the dating apps are probably full of men who’re sick of being on the apps and are more likely to settle for any relationship.
Aside from love bombing early in the talking stages, what are some not so obvious signs a guy just wants to be in a relationship with anyone, rather than you specifically, because clearly I’m bad at telling the difference.