There’s this guy I found cute on Instagram and he happens to live in my city , I followed him and he followed me back. I’ve been following him for a few weeks. I want to send him a message , but idk if it’s weird ? And what can I say ? He doesn’t post stories. Should I just message hey how are you ?
Thank you for your help 😊
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You should randomly heart his stories for the next three years until he messages you first like a real girl would.
Yes it’s very weird, dudes hate when women show interest and take all the guessing out of the equation. We much prefer to not know their motives, it makes it more fun for us. We live for the risk!
NTA. Ask if he wants to meet for coffee (in a public place).
“hey, I couldn’t help but notice how cute you are, maybe we should get to know each other? My name is Inigo Montoya, you killed my father, prepare to die.”
I am a man and I have my work on instagram for publicity. I get 3 to 5 messages per day from people who followed me. Lots just want me to follow them back. Some want to sell me a product concerning my job. More than half are single women I don’t know. Some list a link to porn or only fans.
Good luck getting a response from me if I don’t know you already. You better tell me where we met and the context of your message. “Hi how are you?” gets deleted and your account gets restricted.
ON my facebook page, I have discovered that FB adds friends to my list without my knowledge or permission. It is usually a young woman. And she is often friends with several people from a certain part of my life such as high school or college. We are all friends with her, but none of us know who she is. My trust in anything META is about zero.
I’m gonna be a Dad here and say… Please be careful who you talk to online, how much personal info you give away and make sure you meet in a public place multiple times if it ever goes past messaging.
You press the profile, message and then the arrow button to send
“ I swear I saw you at the mall yesterday?”
Might be a scammer
Just trust your instincts and try to convey them best way possible. It’s not desperate liking someone, but fighting against your feelings is. Keep it casual and do what you want to do.
You might as well just be straight up and tell him you want him, and see what he does from there.
Granted, vast majority of guys are not getting DMs from women on IG unless it’s a scammer, a MLM woman, or a woman with ulterior motives that doesn’t align with theirs.
Message him at 3am saying ‘u up? 😉’
I’ve messaged strangers on Instagram and made good conversation before
I think my first message is usually something insanely dumb like “Hi, do I know you?” It’s completely idiotic when we genuinely do not know each other, but it’s a starting point. You just gotta figure out how you want to represent yourself.
It doesn’t usually end up in a date, but I’ve had good results considering that I was being a weirdo (on purpose). I think if you don’t be a weirdo like me, you’ve got a pretty good chance, but that all depends on his personality and situation.
You’ll never know until you try
I say this all the time and often see it confirmed by the best couples I know. Ask the guy out don’t do a “well I don’t want to so he should do it for me” if you do it you’re showing that you can probably actually communicate and you’re not going to be a huge amount of work and play the guessing game with everything.
See something funny on IG? Share it with him. It’s about the only way you’re going to find organic social context on IG.
I think others have gotten the good sarcasm so I am just going to go straight to it. Just send a message and be honest. “Hello, I followed you because I think you are cute and live in the same city. What do you like to do for fun?” Easy, makes your intentions for a possible relationship clear and puts the ball in his court to respond and give you some of his personality (good or bad).
I think a really good line here is ‘hey, you know when a cute girl follows a cute guy on Instagram, and the cute guy follows the cute girl back. Does that mean they fancy each other?’
So there’s two things to think about here.
(a) NO GUY WILL EVER THINK LESS OF YOU for growing the balls to say hi, quite the opposite, and even if he’s not as attracted to you, he’ll still be flattered, and hopefully he’s kind enough to let you down easy.
(b) If he has your eye, then there’s a very good chance he has a lot of other girls’ eyes too, so know that you have competition (if you were the only one interested, you wouldn’t be interested).
Best way is to respond to a story. Bonus points if it’s a question.
He followed you back so 90% chance he finds you cute.
Find something you both have in common and ask his comment or advice about it. For example: “I have been interested in … But im new to it, i saw you know a bit about, can you teach/tell me about it?” you should start your conversation on something he is good at, his hobbies, passion and profession. You will leave a whole lot thing for him to talk and you just have to make small comments and questions. This work for everyone.
lol.
If you like a guy just fucking say so, the vast majority of men go willingly ignorant to woman’s attention because of societal pressure and general anxiety/fear
Unless the dude is a Greek God who has scales of women attacking him he will be receptive to your approach, and if he isn’t then that’s indicative that he may not be ready for a serious attempt at something with a real partner
That’s just my experience as a “glow up” guy that wishes he didn’t miss out on connections because the women I would have been into never made a move. Life is short
Best of luck 🫡
React to his reels or stories when something strikes you and say what it was. see if he engages with your message energetically. Of it takes him longer than 2 days to say more than one sentence worth of words, you have your answer, he’s not interested
Here is the thing. You think he is cute, but you don’t know anything about him. The stakes are literally zero. Because the probability is very high that if he says yes, and you meet up, YOU will not want a second date.
But if you don’t message him, there is a not zero probability that he is the love of your life, who you will never know.
Like a few of his post and then make contact. Why wait for him to maybe see you. Men don’t know what they want and miss signals all the time
Be direct. If you want a man go make him yours.
Story reply.
“Hey, how are you?” is pretty low-risk and works well for the majority of cases. Don’t worry about being weird. Taking the first step as a girl is already a massive green flag. After a few messages, propose to meet.