Since our daughter was born, for about the last 7 months our intimacy has dwindled from 2-3 times a week down to 2-4 times a month. The last few months there have been times where we’re getting intimate, he gets his, and then just goes to bed. The first few times I made up excuses like he’s just tired it’s not a big deal etc. Last night it happened again and I decided to confront him this morning. He literally said “how was I supposed to know if you didn’t say anything, I can’t read your mind, this isn’t my fault, you need to communicate with me” I said I assumed it was common knowledge for both parties to receive pleasure during intimacy. He’s like “I thought you were good unless you said hey what about me”. Im honestly shocked that he thinks it’s fine and that he’s blaming me essentially for not asking. I told him it’s upsetting to me because we don’t have that many moments anymore so when we do on these rare occasions and that’s how it goes it’s really upsetting to me and I feel uncared for and used. He just continued on about he can’t know unless I communicate.
I’m at a loss