So my boyfriend and I have been together a year. I was previously married and have one son. He’s been there for us, has a great relationship with my son etc. Now the topic of my ex is sensitive and he has the beliefs that exes shouldn’t be brought up or talked about of course with the exception of coparenting. I have a little initial tattoo on my hand from my marriage. I never said anything about it and he has never asked. I kinda assumed he made the connection of what it was considering he knows my exes first name and all. Well this weekend we went to a gender reveal with all my friends. I have a friend ( not the pregnant one) who’s notorious for saying things in front of people that she probably shouldn’t say. I even had a talk ahead of time with her to not say anything embarrassing in front of my boyfriend. She also knows the history of me and my boyfriend and knows my ex is a sensitive thing to bring up. She also hated her girlfriend’s baby daddy and took her years to get over.
Anyways she pointed out my tattoo and asked if Im gonna get it covered right in front of him. He instantly knew what it was right then and that was how he found out. He was really hurt and excused himself outside and went for a drive. He told me he felt betrayed that I didn’t tell him and even more so that he found out that way. He already felt out of place at my friends bbq to begin with. He wanted to leave and go home. We drove two hours and planned to stay with that friend. I ended up respecting his wishes and we left after the reveal to talk things out at home. My friend is most likely upset that I left. My friends also said they weren’t going to change just because my boyfriend didn’t like their “humor” . I understand at the end of the day it’s my fault for not being open about the tattoo. Am I wrong for leaving with him?