What signs show you’re not interested in talking to a guy or feel uncomfortable around him?
August 30, 2025
What signs show you’re not interested in talking to a guy or feel uncomfortable around him?
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Giving curt acknowledgements, keeping clear distance, not engaging much in a conversation and staying formal even if the guy is being nice.
You feel fidgety and annoyed.
The energy is drained.
It doesn’t matter if the guy is chill toward you. You simply don’t feel it.
Any possible excuse to get away from you is taken immediately and without hesitation.
You already know, don’t you. Just pay attention to the signs.
not interested: acting cold
uncomfortable: plus a bit more aggressive
Flat affect, monotone, no eye contact, one word responses, moving away, paying attention to literally anything else.
If I know them personally, I will jist tell them to leave me be.
He never gets my full attention. Short answers, my back or side towards them, pretty obvious hints
Random dude? Terse response, no eye contact, moving away if possible, even ignoring them. It may be considered rude, but I don’t owe them conversation and my peace is more important to me.
Someone I know? I’m pretty direct and tell them I’m not interested.
alicia is that u
Whenever I’m talking with him, I’m wishing for the conversation to end.
Rushing to get away
I don’t engage in conversations. More “oh cool… dang, that’s crazy..” until they leave me alone
Absolutely nothing. I don’t engage. I don’t stick around, just because.. Even if we’re in a group setting. I make my displeasure known.
This happened to me a few weeks ago at a gaming event. He made me uncomfortable and I kept my answers short and direct w a flat affect. Then I got outta there real quick.
Men already know how to read the ‘soft no’ the same way women do; that has been proven by studies. There’s no mysterious gender semaphore, only that some men selectively ignore these as a dominance move. So any ignoring of the ‘soft no’ and I’m done with him.
never approach him first, only respond if he speaks to me and then in the briefest possible answer. don’t ask questions. no eye contact, or eyes searching the room behind him. tight lips, or corners of mouth are pulled back. shallow breath, holding breath. often answer questions with words or short phrases like- really, crazy, m-hmm, yah, i know, right, i don’t know, you would think, it would almost have to be. keeping my arms crossed. trying to return to a previous conversation with someone else. trying to do something else. introducing him to someone else. noticing something wrong with my clothing and going to fix it. noticing something to help with in the room and going to fix it. remembering it’s time to do something else and doing it.
Don’t make eye contact. When they try and engage you, be polite and excuse yourself. Don’t acknowledge group chat etc if it’s a social situation/ I’ve lived abroad alone, traveled alone, and lived in major cities, it’s just the way I’ve had to be.
If you’re asking because you need to get this across to a man, the only thing that will work is being direct.
I’ve learned to get very comfortable with just saying, “I’m good please leave.”
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Giving curt acknowledgements, keeping clear distance, not engaging much in a conversation and staying formal even if the guy is being nice.
You feel fidgety and annoyed.
The energy is drained.
It doesn’t matter if the guy is chill toward you. You simply don’t feel it.
Any possible excuse to get away from you is taken immediately and without hesitation.
You already know, don’t you. Just pay attention to the signs.
not interested: acting cold
uncomfortable: plus a bit more aggressive
Flat affect, monotone, no eye contact, one word responses, moving away, paying attention to literally anything else.
If I know them personally, I will jist tell them to leave me be.
He never gets my full attention. Short answers, my back or side towards them, pretty obvious hints
Random dude? Terse response, no eye contact, moving away if possible, even ignoring them. It may be considered rude, but I don’t owe them conversation and my peace is more important to me.
Someone I know? I’m pretty direct and tell them I’m not interested.
alicia is that u
Whenever I’m talking with him, I’m wishing for the conversation to end.
Rushing to get away
I don’t engage in conversations. More “oh cool… dang, that’s crazy..” until they leave me alone
Absolutely nothing. I don’t engage. I don’t stick around, just because.. Even if we’re in a group setting. I make my displeasure known.
This happened to me a few weeks ago at a gaming event. He made me uncomfortable and I kept my answers short and direct w a flat affect. Then I got outta there real quick.
Men already know how to read the ‘soft no’ the same way women do; that has been proven by studies. There’s no mysterious gender semaphore, only that some men selectively ignore these as a dominance move. So any ignoring of the ‘soft no’ and I’m done with him.
never approach him first, only respond if he speaks to me and then in the briefest possible answer. don’t ask questions. no eye contact, or eyes searching the room behind him. tight lips, or corners of mouth are pulled back. shallow breath, holding breath. often answer questions with words or short phrases like- really, crazy, m-hmm, yah, i know, right, i don’t know, you would think, it would almost have to be. keeping my arms crossed. trying to return to a previous conversation with someone else. trying to do something else. introducing him to someone else. noticing something wrong with my clothing and going to fix it. noticing something to help with in the room and going to fix it. remembering it’s time to do something else and doing it.
Don’t make eye contact. When they try and engage you, be polite and excuse yourself. Don’t acknowledge group chat etc if it’s a social situation/ I’ve lived abroad alone, traveled alone, and lived in major cities, it’s just the way I’ve had to be.
If you’re asking because you need to get this across to a man, the only thing that will work is being direct.
I’ve learned to get very comfortable with just saying, “I’m good please leave.”