This is totally left of centre and due to watching a movie where someone said, "I would never date a formerly fat person, as they might gain all the weight back."

As someone who is also in this position (loosing weight and will likely be stuck with a lot of loose skin) that kinda stuck with me! 😐

Do people actually feel this way?


10 comments

  1. I’m 29M and i’ll be perfectly honest with you it wouldnt ever bother me how someone that im dating used to look. A lot of people in general are shallow but if you have lost weight and look good now that why should it matter, everyone gains weight in relationships anyway both male and female

  4. Oh, I’m in that boat, recovering from the surgery to deal with that loose skin rn, I wish I knew earlier, I kept dieting and gymming for years not understanding it’s mostly just the skin.

  5. I used to be fat, my girlfriend loves how fit I am right now. I’m sure that would change if I were to gain the weight back. We met after I had lost it all, but she knows my past and has never said anything negative about it

  6. Omg I’m in the same situation. Lost 100lbs and have loose skin, feel super weird in my body. Every time I’ve showed a guy my before picture they would respond “I would have never dated you then”. It really messed up my head because I’m literally the same person, just 100lbs less. I didn’t go through some big mental or emotional metamorphosis, I’m literally the same person. Same likes, dislikes, interests, hobbies, personality, humor, everything….and they never would have even looked at me. Its so, so weird.

  7. I’ve recently lost 144lbs and I had a dude dump me when he found out I used to be fat!

    People who hate us fatties will hate us at every size. Anti fat bias seeps out of people, it’s wild. definitely didn’t foresee this.

  9. That is the dumbest reason not to date someone. If they are like that then they aren’t worth your time.

  10. Considering I’m a fat person on a weight loss journey myself I would definitely date someone who is or used to be fat. I would be pretty hypocritical if I wouldn’t.

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