My wife and I are experiencing so intimacy issues. We are both 28
For a little backstory – we have been together for 10 years. The first 5 years we had great sex on a regular basis.
My wife has always had trouble with anxiety. Panic attacks and the whole 9 yards. About five years ago, we came to the conclusion that she should try getting on some medication to combat this. The doctors put her on Lexapro and it has really helped significantly… however tanked her sex drive and made thanks so much less regular, which is fine. I guess that’s the cost of this kind of medication from my limited understanding. But we persevered through that.
At one point last year, we tried another anxiety medication, in hopes that this one wouldn’t fuck with her libido but it ended up just making her full of rage and a complete lunatic by her own admission so we had to go back to Lexapro.
Last year, we decided that we want to start attempting to have our first child together. And we are now expecting and are at the beginning of her second trimester. We both cannot wait to be parents! So per our doctor at the times advice, she got off the Lexapro.
I understand pregnancy is very hard and something that as male can’t really understand. I have read that it’s very typical for sex drive to completely disappear during pregnancy. But it has gone to the point where she doesn’t enjoy really any kind of intimacy even just a few intimate kisses to feel a little fire is either a quick peck or nothing. She has told me “we are not teenagers anymore“ but we are also still young so I don’t understand why she wouldn’t want to.
FYI, she’s also on Lexapro again while being pregnant. OBG said it was OK and low doses. She had some episodes during her first trimester, that scared us both so she got back on it. Maybe the combo of the Lexapro and the pregnancy hormones are just wrecking havoc on her mentally?
I have never threw out our 10 years lost my sex drive for her. I think she’s incredibly attractive and I love her to death.
Just looking for some advice from someone that maybe going through or has went through something similar to what we are right now.
Any advice would be helpful. My wife and I’m sure will appreciate any of it. Thanks so much!