When I talk to people, especially my friends, I have a tendency to say well intentioned things in the worst way possible. For example, I was just FaceTiming a friend who said she was tired and was gonna hang up to go to bed. So I, being the idiot that I am, responded with “yeah I was waiting for you to hang up”. In retrospect, this was the worst possible way I could have said that I wanted her to get some sleep, I made it sound like I don’t talking to her even though I do. Any tips for better mindfulness when it comes to phrasing sentences in the future?


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  2. Yes, the thing you said came strictly from your point of view. Try to say things and relate your words to the other person instead of yourself.

    So, “Yeah, I hope you get some rest, have a great night!” That’s more focused on what SHE is feeling, not so much on what you might be feeling.

  3. rather than word choice, work on intention-respond compassionately

    and because your example is so crazy rude lol, maybe give a little pause to think. don’t blurt things out so carelessly

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