So long story short, my girlfriend is bisexual and she had a thing for this other girl. I eventually gave her a hall pass because I don’t necessarily care about women on women action. But the due to a bunch of lying and deceitfulness on her end I revoked my pass because I didn’t feel comfortable. I felt like I was manipulated into supporting her “sexual urges” and was assured that I could never be replaced lol…
Anyways, about a month ago I was staying over at my cousins house for the night and she went out drinking. We have each other’s locations (safety reasons) and this particular night her location was at an apartment she claims was her friends. I fell asleep around 11pm and woke up at 6am and noticed her phone was still in that location. I made a mental note to remember that day but went about it nonchalantly and text her in the morning asking if she was ok. She said she stayed at her friends house because she was lit and didn’t want to drive drunk (that’s sounds completely fair and a very good reason) but she also told me that her service was being weird. see this detail later
Fast forward to yesterday…I’m on the couch and I’m using her MacBook to stream a football game and I remember that date in my head. I go to her iMessage on her laptop and immediately scroll to that specific date and time (I skipped through everything else because honestly I just wanted to know what my gut was telling me) and sure enough I found messages with that girl telling her she should’ve stayed for breakfast and also my gf telling her best friend she intentionally turned off her phone so she wouldn’t get caught by me lol
Here’s the crazy part…we just moved in together 2 days ago and we’re still unpacking boxes and she flew me across the country to meet her family 2 weeks ago …she cheated on me about 3 weeks ago smhhh Im upset because she lied and cheated on me yet I feel disgusting looking through her messages (to me that’s a level of insecurity I never wanted to be apart of)
I want to bring it up to her but I feel like she’s going to attack me on invading her privacy? The thing is, I would do it over and over again if it means I’m not wasting my time nurturing and watering this relationship.
TL;DR : caught my gf cheating on me but I had to be insecure and look through her messages.