My boyfriend (20sM) and I (20sF) have been together for 2 years now. I’d say our relationship has matured a lot. It’s stable, peaceful, and drama-free. We do have disagreements sometimes, but we’ve always managed to talk things out, which I’m grateful for.
But lately, I’ve been missing how it used to be in the beginning. Back then, it was full of excitement, sweet messages, surprises, and constant effort. Now, most of our conversations are just updates about our day. We do see each other about twice a week, but it feels different compared to before. Back then, we’d get so excited just to see each other. Now, it feels more like a comfortable routine—we’re happy to be together, but the anticipation isn’t really there anymore.
Since we’ve both gotten busier with our own lives, we rarely go on actual dates now—maybe once a month at most. Most of the time, instead of going out, we’d rather just hang out at each other’s houses, doing nothing or even boring things, as long as we’re together. I know there’s comfort in that, but sometimes I miss the excitement of going out and experiencing new things together.
We’re still supportive of each other and always there when it matters, but the relationship feels more calm and steady than passionate. I can’t say the love is gone—it’s not—but it feels like the “high” or intensity of love has settled down. We both know that we feel at ease with each other.
I did try to communicate this with him. He told me that he still loves me, which I truly believe, but he didn’t really say much about me missing how things were in the beginning.
We’ve just stepped into our early 20s, and part of me is scared of losing that spark completely. I’m just confuse if this is just how relationships naturally evolve, or is there something we can do to bring back some of the excitement, like is it really normal in long-term relationships to feel this way?
TL;DR, Been with my boyfriend for 2 years. Our relationship is stable, peaceful, and supportive, but I miss the excitement and passion we had in the beginning. Now we rarely go on dates, usually just hang out at home, and the spark feels less intense. Is this normal in long-term relationships?