We’ve been dating for a year and half. We have a great relationship and our personalities are very compatible with each other. She’s kind and caring and often goes out of her way to show her appreciation for me. Overall she’s a great partner. However, I’m growing increasingly concerned that she is a shallow person. For example, a few months ago she asked me what my reaction would be if I was single and an unattractive girl tried to flirt with me at the bar. I said I’d be flattered and tell the girl I appreciate the interest but kindly reject them. I then asked her what she would do if an unattractive guy hit in her and she responded “I’d feel offended that they thought they had a chance with me.” Another time I overheard her and her friend making fun of their other friends’ boyfriend for being fat and unattractive. And yesterday she was drunk after going to her friend’s birthday party at a bar and in heels and I asked her how tall she was in them. She said she was 5’8 and then said “and I told [friend who is actually 5’8] if a guy is shorter than me in heels, don’t even bother talking to them haha.” Basically she was making a joke about how if a guy approached her friend at the club and he was short then her friend shouldn’t even entertain him, implying that being short is a very negative trait. I’m tall so I can see why she might feel comfortable saying these things to me. I understand people have preferences but I’m still disgusted by these comments. I’m conflicted because she’s very nice and friendly to people in real life and we have such a great relationship. Is this something worth breaking up over?
Tldr: gf has made some very shallow comments and despite us having a great relationship I am considering breaking up with her