I am 21m and growing up I always thought that morality was the truest part of a person. I wasn’t popular but that didn’t matter because I was always honest and true. I didn’t have any clever pick up lines but if I saw someone drop their groceries I made damn certain I was the first to help. All because these things are the most important. To be clear I am a decent person not a perfect one that isn’t the point of this post. From what I see around me good traits in dating are being handsome or funny or wealthy or intelligent and to have these traits you can be either a good person or bad person and it won’t matter. If you are funny but an arrogant narcissist it wont matter because being funny overrules it. To go further with this sex offenders and rapists you think their lives just stop when they get out of prison? Nope they just go back to dating like nothing even happened. I don’t think being good automatically means you deserve a girlfriend because thats stupid and anyone who thinks that way is a bad person. I think I romanticised the idea of love and connection and is just really disappointed of how it is. I know this is wrong but I get lonely sometimes and sometimes wish I could trade in some of my personality traits for something else. I really like to read I wish I could trade that in for a more social trait. I am so lonely that I ponder if I am a bad person and just don’t know it because surely bad people think they are decent. If truly bad people can get a date than maybe I am worse.