My husband (42m) and I (44f) have been married for 20 years and we’ve always maintained a steady and fairly vanilla private life. We have two high school daughters, so they take up most of our time, but we still like to make some time for making love whenever possible. Almost every Sunday night.
Out of the blue a couple months ago, my husband asked me if i ever regretted married a man who was not well endowed. I was very confused. I told him obviously no, that I had never had any concerns. But he just kept talking about his size whenever we were having sex and even when we weren’t. In the middle of the action he would say sorry I’m so small.
So eventually I confronted him on it, and he told me that he had recently realized that he had a humiliation kink after reading about it on Reddit. He said it would turn him on if i would talk about how small his penis is. I told him I couldn’t because I didn’t think he was small, and we left it at that.
Ever since then he’s never come on to me once, and I even saw in the search history on our computer that he was looking at humiliation porn. We’ve talked about it a few times, but his brain seems just so fixated on this humiliation thing that i can’t understand.
Would appreciate advice from anyone whose been in a similar situation