I’m sick and tired of dating. I’m 28, I want to find someone. The last three guys who have asked me out ended up ghosting either the day of or the day before the date. Everything seemed fine, having normal conversation. I don’t understand why. I show my male friends the messages I send and they say I’m not very flirty, but most times agree the guy isn’t exactly being overly flirty either.
I do find it hard to flirt over text, I tend to banter more or just have normal conversation. I find it hard to flirt until I meet the person, I’m better in person too, I’ve been told by the guys that have taken me on a date I’m better than expected and super flirty and fun… then things tend to escalate from there. I hate ghosting, if you’re not interested just say. But I find it so unfair that people judge you so much based off texting before even meeting. I’m not a good texter, I try my best but I openly admit to guys I’m better in person then my texting is better once I’ve got a sense of them face to face. It’s hard for me to flirt a lot when I don’t actually know them. I prefer friendly talk before a date. I just wonder if I’m messing it up that’s why they keep ghosting me. I was meant to meet someone this weekend and was looking forward to it but he hasn’t replied in over 24hrs so I assume he’s ghosted me too. I just don’t get where I’m going wrong.