I’ve always genuinely liked and gotten along well with most people. Not to bring up something from 10 years ago lol, but my class superlative when I graduated high school was “Everyone’s Friend.” Don’t get me wrong, I can be judgmental and elitist about certain things, but I can easily push those thoughts to the back of my mind. I don’t dwell on the negative traits of friends, acquaintances, coworkers, or strangers.
A lot of the time, I actually don’t even notice the negative things about people’s personalities or behavior until others point them out to me. My friends were talking about this last night, joking around that I’m kind of “delulu” about people sometimes. They were saying that I’m too nice, I don’t judge people enough, and I don’t notice the character flaws in others that they see. They didn’t even mean that I’m too trusting or that I’m naive to an actual fault, because I’m not. It’s more about low stakes observations. For example, they were all talking about how they find someone immature because of certain behaviors. I genuinely never thought of this person in that way. I kind of walked away from that conversation feeling a bit socially inept, which is weird to me because I’ve always thought of myself as someone with strong social/people skills.
Do most people operate like my friends, consciously judging others based on their interactions and keeping a mental list of people’s flaws? Am I an outlier because it just doesn’t occur to me to do that?