It's so weird. I'm not easily embarrassed but whenever I go on a date I feel like other people are watching. I think it's cuz dating feels like such a private thing but there's no way to do it privately unless you're at someone's home, which is off the table until I get to know someone and that they're safe.
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I think you’re overestimating how much complete strangers are invested in you.
As someone who’s older…definitely. I feel like I’m putting my failures on display
It shouldn’t be. That’s like saying hanging out is embarrassing? Unless you’re sticking tongues down each other’s throats in public like that weird couple in the high school stairwell, undressing each other with your eyes and words or.. god forbid heavy petting in public. Otherwise it’s just a job interview but with someone you like to look at.
No? I don’t think most people realize I’m on a date, unless my date mentions it haha.
Dating isnt necessarily a private thing lik youre saying. Early dates are almost like a friendship.Are your friendships private, or is it normal for you to hang out with friends in public?
I used to feel that way too but then I realized most people are too busy with their own lives to notice or care.
That actually makes a lot of sense. Dating can feel exposing, but there’s nothing to be embarrassed about. Everyone around you has either been on dates themselves or will be at some point, so you’re not alone in that feeling. The fact that you’re putting yourself out there is something to be proud of, not embarrassed by.
the irony is that the more comfortable you get with someone, the less you notice or care about other people around you. but those first few dates when you’re still figuring each other out? yeah, it can feel like being on stage 😀
lol being at a bar with loud music and feeling embarrassed I had no one to dance with is definitely embarrassing
Yes I date men 🤷🏼♀️
I can tell when two people are on a first date (especially when they greet each other for the first time inside the establishment lol), but I don’t fixate on them. It is interesting to see, if anything.
It can be yes
To be honest some people watch and notice every detail. I’ve been a part of those kinds of conversations.
But trust me when I tell you people forget about it within a couple hours unless something very bizarre is going on.
The trick is remembering that everyone else in the room is way more concerned with their fries, their phone, or their own awkward conversations than with dissecting yours. You’re not being watched, you’re just projecting how vulnerable you feel. Once the right person is across from you, it’ll shift; the world fades out and it won’t matter if you’re at a crowded bar or a park bench, because the “audience” won’t exist anymore.