I (31F) am new to the dating scene after being in a 6 year long relationship. I’ve never traditionally dated like this before, I met my exes either at work or school. I don’t even remember what my exes and I would talk about on first dates but obviously those went well enough to continue seeing each other. However, now I find myself feeling super awkward and self conscious when it comes to talking about anything on first dates. There’s never really a dull moment or long silence but I do feel the awkwardness creeping in at times when it’s my turn to answer a question or whatever and then I end up cutting myself short and ask him another question so that I can stop talking..
I know the basic stuff to ask in order to get to know someone, but also I don’t know if I should ask about the big stuff on a first date like do you want kids, marriage, etc. plus it often feels like an interview and then my mind goes blank sometimes and I forget what to ask. I’m the type of person who wants to dig deep with people but I don’t want to be rude or inappropriate on a first date. I literally brought up the weather on my last date which wasn’t bad in the moment but looking back I feel pathetic 😅 I feel like I’ve forgotten how to communicate with people..
So my question is what do you even talk about on dates, how do you transition from asking questions to just talking…?