Hey Reddit,
I’m reaching out because I’m in a situation with my wife and I really want to help her. She’s the first person I’ve ever been with, and I’m the first person she’s ever been with. She’s never had any sexual experience before, and she’s never watched porn or been exposed to a lot of sexual knowledge. Because of this, she doesn’t know what she likes or what she wants in bed.
Whenever we have sex, she has orgasms, but she has mentioned that it feels like things are a bit boring or that she doesn’t know how to perform or how to communicate what she wants. I really love her, and I’m so grateful for everything she’s done for me. But I also want her to enjoy sex more and feel more confident about it.
She’s been really open with me about feeling unsure, and sometimes she apologizes for not knowing how to make things better. I don’t want her to feel this way, but I don’t know how to help her discover what she enjoys or how to get her to open up about her desires.
I want to make our sex life more enjoyable and fulfilling for both of us. Does anyone have any advice on how I can help her discover what she likes in bed, or how I can encourage her to feel more confident and comfortable? Any tips for helping her explore her desires without pressure would be much appreciated.
Thanks in advance for your help